By Christine Lee
The pain is utterly indescribable. You have nervously looked at the clock the whole day, checked your phone for any updates, and logged on to the your school’s account probably a couple thousand times, just to find out in a pretty brief letter from the designated university that you were not admitted. And even though all of the adults and older kids who are already in college assure you that it is just one rejection letter and the world is not crashing down, it is not easy to disregard such a heavy disappointment.
The reason why we become depressed, quizzical,and even mad when faced with this situation is probably because this whole “College entrance jazz” is the very first and real time that all of our years of hard work are finally recognized and objectively proved, theoretically. Therefore, it is only natural to feel this way when the school closes the door on us with no reasonable explanation as to WHY.
To those Early Decision/Action applicants who were deferred or to those Regular Decision applicants who are still waiting for acceptance letters, while this may seem cliche, do remember that a single letter of denial does not define or set in stone your ability to succeed or categorize you as being a “failure.” We will all end up in schools that appreciate what we can offer and most importantly, we will end up in schools that fit us well. So, have patience and try to keep a positive attitude.
“Be patient with the process and seek advice from school counselors. Every situation is different so talk to us to weigh both pros and cons. Try to decide what the next step would be and we can help you figure out the specifics together, ” advised Mr. Escobar, our guidance counselor.
Mr. Valassidis asked myself and fellow nerve-wrecked seniors who were about to check the decision on their decision day if they will ever remember and reflect back to this particular day in their lifespan. And all the seniors answered, “No.” We will move on, just like the time we got our first tooth pulled out. The moment is only temporary. There are so many choices and opportunities lying ahead of us. Do not let a letter of denial trip you up. We will face both small and big failures in our lifetime, and it is crucial for us to learn to cope and be able to get back on track quickly; that way we can be genuinely thankful for the success that is near our reach.
In Justice, written by author Michael J. Sandel, he states what a letter of deferral/rejection SHOULD say, “It is not your fault that when you came along society happened not to need the qualities you had to offer. Those admitted instead of you are not deserving of a place, nor worthy of praise for the factors that led to their admission. We are only using them- and you- as instruments of a wider social purpose.” There you have it seniors.
Good luck to all of the seniors still waiting on the results and may the odds be ever in your favor!
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